Are you willing to have a difficult conversation? What about when it comes to someone contemplating taking their own life? Maybe it feels too scary and awkward, so you remain silent. However, to keep the people we know safe, we must learn how to have these challenging dialogues. Knowing what to look for and what steps to take is crucial. I do not doubt that together, we will help prevent suicide.

Five Action Steps to Help Prevent Suicide

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline has a message for us on how we can do our part to reduce suicide. The information below is from the Bethe1To campaign. These steps are supported by evidence in the field of suicide prevention.

Step 1 – Ask

How will we ever know if someone is struggling with suicidal thoughts if we don’t ask? We can’t expect others to come right out and tell us.

How to Ask

Directly—Be Brave | Be Blunt—Ask, “Are you considering ending your life?” “Are you considering suicide?”

There are many ways to ask, but don’t be vague. Maintain a reassuring tone and body language, saying, “Hey, I can talk to you about this; I am safe, non-judgmental, and willing to help.”

Reason for Living – Find out why they might want to stay alive. 

No Secrets – Never promise to keep their thoughts of suicide a secret. 

Listen – No matter how negative the conversation feels, it is good this person is talking. Someone trusted us enough to share, and letting someone unload is helpful. After all, don’t you feel better when you talk about what is bothering you? 

Avoid arguments, problem-solving, advice, giving quick referrals, belittling, or trying to get them to justify why they feel the way they do.

Why Ask

Asking individuals who are at risk of suicide will not increase or put the idea into their thoughts; the exact opposite is true. Click here for more information.

When we ask, it shows we are safe people who can discuss difficult topics. 

Most people don’t reach out. Bringing up the subject of suicide and discussing it is one of the most helpful things we can do. Often, talking will be enough to release those overwhelming feelings that drive a person to want to take their life.

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Step 2 – Keep Them Safe

At this stage, suicide is a risk, and we must do our best to keep the person safe. We can do this; we have already asked the most critical question.

How to Keep Someone Safe

Think of Safety First  – We must not focus on whether the other person will be angry with us or if we are intruding.  

After all, wouldn’t we rather have this person hate us for the rest of their life but still be here?

Timing | Details | Access – We will want to ask tough questions and listen well. It is necessary to know a few things to keep a person safe. We want to do this conversationally, not in an interrogating manner. We are probing for information to pass on.  

Don’t Leave the Person Alone When our gut tells us not to leave them alone – don’t.

Keep the person Away from All Lethal Means – It is imperative to remember that they told us they were suicidal in step one or that the warning and risk factors are evident.  

DO NOT Do This Alone –  Remember, we are only the first layer of help. We need qualified mental health professionals to assess someone’s suicidality. A suicidal person should get help sooner rather than later.

It is okay to call authorities for a well-check, go to the ER, or call the Lifeline number. We must do what is needed to keep the individual safe. Trust your instinct!

Why Keep Them Safe

Keeping a person safe is an integral part of suicide prevention. The overwhelming feelings will pass. It is only a moment, but they have to get through it, and they need our help.

Step 3 – Be There

How to Be There

Be Present – What do you want when you are hurting, confused, or scared? Most of us don’t want to be alone in our suffering, and we don’t have to have all of the answers. Being present without trying to fix it will help. Even if we cannot physically be with a person, giving 100% on a call, Facetime, or texting will help. 

Listen with Empathy, Compassion, and No judgments – Listen carefully to the responses. Find out what is causing their pain. It rarely is one thing. 

Follow Through– This is not the time to flake. Don’t promise to do anything if you can’t follow through. Brainstorm together who might be a capable person in helping; not everybody is. 

Why Being There is Important

Being there with someone who has thoughts of suicide can save a LIFE. Remember, it is a moment – it will pass. 

Step 4 – Help Them Connect 

Our goal here is to connect them to people who will be able to help. Remember, you may help lower the risk now; however, most likely, the thoughts will resurface without intervention.

How to Help Them Connect

Make Sure Everyone Has the Lifeline Number – The suicide hotline number is 800-273-TALK (8255). This hotline is not solely for those who have thoughts of suicide. If you are concerned about someone – you can call too.  

Hint: Add this number to your phone’s contact list, then it will always be readily available to someone in need. 

Know Who Is in Their Network –  Do they already have a psychiatrist, therapist, or counselor? What about family and friends who might be helpful?

Help the person Create a Safety Plan – How many of you, when in a crisis, suddenly can’t remember your address or phone number? The time to come up with a successful plan is not in the middle of an emergency. Of course, a safety plan is best when done in partnership with a clinician.    

Why – Help them Connect 

We are not professionals. Yes, it was a moment, but most likely, another one is coming, and they need help learning how to cope with their overwhelming feelings and pain. 

Step 5 – Follow Up

Now is not the time to quit. It can be as easy as a text, a call, or a visit. Your relationship is valuable!

How to Follow Up

Keep Connecting! Don’t Give Up!

Why Follow Up

Staying connected will help lower the risk of suicide.

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Do you know?

The Suicide Risk Factors –  click here.

The Warning Signs –  click here.

Together we can all make a difference in helping to prevent suicide. Yes, of course, it can be scary to get involved. However, by educating ourselves, practicing, and spreading the word, we will help prevent suicide. Share on X

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Do You Know How to Help Prevent Suicide?

By knowing what to look for and what steps to take, you might be the one to save a life. Join Maree Dee and her husband as they present #Bethe1To from the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

Together, we will help prevent suicide! Click here to watch “Suicide Awareness Talk: Will You Be the Oneto Save a Life?”


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Are You Struggling with Thoughts of Suicide?

Maybe you are reading this post and struggling with thoughts of suicide. Please know your life matters to God and others. Reach out to someone and share your pain.  

Call the Suicide Prevention number at 1-800 – 273 – TALK (8255) or 988


Suicide Loss Survivors

Even when we try our best, sometimes, we are not successful in preventing suicide. The five steps are not foolproof. My prayers and heart go out to those suffering from this devastating kind of loss. Please be sure to seek out support. Surround yourself with friends and family, and seek professional help if needed. You matter too! 

Click here to watch a hope-filled event presented by Circles of Hope: Mental Health Support. It was indeed a night of hope and healing as  Kay Warren, co-founder of Saddleback Church and fellow suicide loss survivor, shared her journey in moving forward after the tragic loss of her son, Matthew. 

Our minds can’t grasp why God would allow so much pain here on earth, but we must choose to put our trust in God even in the midst of our suffering.

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1


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41 Comments

  1. Thank you for sharing about this important topic, Maree. It’s heartbreaking that it is so necessary that we’re all aware of steps to take to help others, but it is much needed in the culture we’re living in. I’m grateful for the grace of God and hope that He offers in times like these <3

  2. This is such an important topic. Thank you for sharing this guidance. These are difficult and heart-breaking situations, but there is also hope. Visiting today from the instaencouragements link up.

  3. My heart breaks for the many I know who have been touched by suicide! This is such a thorough and helpful post! I’m scheduling on multiple Pinterest boards for the next 7 weeks and tweeting this post. It is so helpful to have a clear resource on how to help!

  4. This post is so helpful. Suicide has impacted my family since before I was born. I grew up seeing the pain my grandmother’s suicide caused my mother. And then I had my own struggle as an adult. They say suicide risk can run in families, which has been what I’ve seen in my own family. I know my mom, my brother, and myself have all struggled with it. I think the healthiest thing we’ve done is talk about it, but I’m so thankful for the tips in this post. I will definitely be keeping them in mind. Thank you.

  5. Wow, Maree Dee! This is so powerful, helpful and much needed! I’m going to share this on my FB page later this week! Thanks for talking through these principles and steps! Pinning!

    1. Anne – Thank you for your encouragement. I, too, hope it helps many to know they can be a part of helping to prevent suicide. Maree

    1. Thank you for the encouragement. It is a message Bethe1to. I thought it was so good and easy to remember the five steps. Maree

  6. Thanks for this advice.Sometimes, we can feel totally useless and ineffective in helping someone who is depressed. It’s such a sad thing to see our young people giving up on life.

    1. Mandy – I agree it is sad that people are in such pain they take such permanent actions. We have to keep trying to reach them. Thank you for your encouragement. Maree

    1. Patsy – Thank you for joining me in spreading awareness. I appreciate you and sharing my post. I agree we need to keep sharing about suicide prevention. Maree

  7. Oh my. My heart hurts for you. Thanks for sharing these tips in the midst of your heart break. Praying God brings you comfort during this difficult time. Those words sound trite and empty, but from this side of the computer screen, they are all that I have. And I know they will never be enough. They couldn’t be.

    1. Heather,
      You are so sweet yours are beautiful, not trite and empty at all. I appreciate your words and prayers. Yes, it is heartbreaking, but I am more determined than ever to do my best to try and help prevent suicide. Blessings, Maree

    1. Alyson, Thank you for your kind words and especially your prayers. We all need them. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. Maree

    1. Donna,

      Thank you for your prayers. I know the family appreciates them and so do all of us that are part of the church family. Maree

  8. This is such an important message to always have available. You and your church family have been in my prayers, Maree. Thank you for sharing this.

  9. Thank you so much for sharing these hard but oh so important truths. I am still praying for you and your church family. May the Lord bring such comfort to you all.

    1. Barbara, I agree. Having direction makes it easier to ask the difficult questions. Thank you for stopping by. Maree