Are you brave enough, not to please? What about when it comes to motherhood? Will you stand firm and look like the “Mean Mom” when your child is hurting?
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Are you brave enough, not to please?  Even when it comes to motherhood? Will you stand firm and look like the “Mean Mom” when your hurting child begs for help, and others question your methods?

Don’t misunderstand, I believed in discipline and had no trouble setting rules and following through. However, when it came to withholding my presence from a child visibly in pain, I struggled to muster up the strength to go against her wishes even when I knew it was best.

So when the abrupt counselor suggested we quit taking our college-age daughter to the ER for her many ailments, I quivered in my seat. “What?” “You mean the next time she calls from her dorm room and says the pain is intense I am to tell her I will talk to you tomorrow?” With a firm answer, he replied, “Yes!”

It seemed – CRUEL & MEAN.

After all, she has challenges most girls her age aren’t even aware exist.

We were all exhausted from doing this song and dance for quite some time. I reluctantly agreed to try something new. Her pain was real, but the million-dollar question was, could it wait until morning?

One night the dreaded call came. I caught my breath knowing a phone ringing late at night wouldn’t bring good news.

Are you brave enough, not to please? What about when it comes to motherhood? Will you stand firm and look like the “Mean Mom” when your child is hurting?
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“Mom, I need you.” “I am in terrible pain.” Will you, please help me?” “It is different this time.” “Will you take me to the ER?”

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8 Comments

  1. There is so much truth here, Maree! Thank you for your wise counsel for moms to stop judging each other. Until we’ve walked in someone shoes we can’t possibly understand. Wonderful advice here!

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    1. Deb, Thank you for your lovely comment. Gosh, I have done my fair share of judging in my early years, but it sure didn’t help anyone. Blessings, Maree

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  3. Yes, we have to have tough love at times & although it’s difficult to be therapists in these situations it’s greatly necessary for the final healthy outcome for all concerned…
    Jennifer

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    1. Jennifer, Yes! We wouldn’t be where we are today with some amazing therapists to help us along the way. I have such gratitude and appreciation for those in your field. Thank you! Blessings, Maree

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